Weekend - That's A Wrap!

Hello all and happy Monday…..and not just ANY Monday, National Coffee Day Monday - Glorious!

This weekend was literally just as it sounds - week end. Nothing over the top, nothing too special - except that we ended a LONG week with Danny still trying to recover while mixing back in day to day stuff like, cleaning, working, exercise - so by the time Friday rolled around I was one happy girl to just be done!

Friday night was a movie and Chinese kind of night….sadly neither ended up being very good. We found a Groupon for a new “healthier” version of Chinese - and well LESSON LEARNED - you do not really eat Chinese to be healthy, and we were not happy. Folks this is rare for us, normally our Chinese food complaints are more along the range of ate too much too fast or ordered way too much. O well dinner was done and with the Groupon deal it cost us less than $20, so we got over it.

The movie - well in all fairness we did not actually even finish it, so maybe it all made sense and turned stellar in the last 40 minutes. The movie we attempted to watch was “Her”. It was not that it was bad more that it was just odd. I can’t really say much about it besides that - just odd. By 10:30 Dan was feeling yucky and not into it and I was having a little more fun on Pinterest than the movie itself…..so we opted to go to bed instead.

That Saturday, I was pretty stoked when I woke up as I had already spent all day Thursday doing a scrub of the house, combatting laundry and getting my personal inbox and desk area all cleaned up - which meant Saturday could be a perfect mix of fun and function before my long waited date night - not just a day of cleaning!! A quick run to Target and coffee first thing, then a clean up of the Bessette command center (which I am also determined we need to use more) and I was ready to get some to do’s ticked off, a long puppy walk in, and then glamorous for our date. Then Danny brought up medical bills and some other long overdue to dos. Then we both got into a bad funk and quick.

Listen- I love my husband with my whole heart - clearly we would not be where we are today if we did not love and respect each other….but that does not mean we are often on completely opposite ends of the spectrum. Dan looked at his email and our bank account and in his head cancelled date night and said we needed to stay in and be productive. Where across the room, I was thinking in my head- we had a productive week, my to dos are moving along - PERFECT night to let loose and ignore our troubles. Disagreement enter from stage left.

One of my best pieces of marriage advice (even though I think marriage advice is pretty scary terrain as everyone’s is different), is know how to fight. And when life changes, in a big or small way, be prepared to relearn how to fight. So I will say Danny and I have been working on that a lot - especially with all that we have going right now (hospital bills, living with family, work woes - mixed together is a little bitter to swallow) - we have to REALLY be aware. We took a breather, came back for a constructive discussion, where we both realized we were basically on opposite ends of the spectrum by accident, and then Danny had a dizzy spell landing him back in bed and we cancelled date night.

The problem was Danny could not really imagine getting up and out and about, yet he had been confined to my family’s house walls for DAYS now and needed a new change of scenery….especially since that dizzy spell could very likely mean another blood clot and hospital stay. So he wanted some kind of break and I was still jonesing BAD for a cocktail, tasty dinner and chance to get fancy. Solution: he went to his parents to hang for the night and my parents took me out. Not ideal - but we both got a bit of what we needed to recharge - which was important because by the time Danny came back on Sunday - he pretty was pretty much couch bound, dealing with IV mess ups all over the place - which led us to try mass Sunday night - only to leave in the middle and making another Monday AM trip to the ER.

Tonight I write from home while Danny is now at Fairfax hospital for a stay to figure out what the heck is going on….and today pretty much felt like last Monday ALL. OVER. AGAIN. Accept that I must have been wearing that look on my face because after four and half hours in the ER, with at least another three to go before Danny would be moved to a room, he sent me home to just breath. God Bless him - I needed that…..and Starbucks.

The good part of this hospital trip is that Danny is at Fairfax - only a half hour away from me and we are very familiar with this hospital. I can come and go easy, know our food options and sleep at home - keeping puppy’s life normal. Yes, I know he is a dog - but by feeling like he is in a normal pattern, Danny and I feel like we have some sort of control. And in a life where control is pretty hard to come by….it helps.

As I said on Instagram today - this is not easy and I don’t wish it on anyone….but we also could be a lot worse. There are much sicker CF patients, there are little ones who are sick and can’t understand why and there are elderly people who are struggling with the pain of having to make much harder decisions….we are still trucking along and Danny is amazing about how he makes this feel normal (cue the corny jokes that still make me laugh)….so over all we are doing pretty good. Thank you God and cheers to another week of ….well….ummmm….adventures?